Today we talk about Mindfulness! The Mindfulness is the practice of “full awareness.” More than discipline is a way of being, a way of life. It is not theory, but, in fact, practice. You do not know, you are mindfulness, that is, you live with the “conscious attention” to what is happening, momentarily, outside and inside of us. It is an attention that does not judge. Looks and experiences. It is the opposite of living with the autopilot, unconscious.
What will this mean? It means that man is accustomed to experiencing external and internal reality through thoughts; are the thoughts and the words in which they shape the elements of the experience and then filter and give them an artifacts image of reality, full of judgments, emotions, opinions. Mindfulness proposes to retrieve, instead, the full “direct” awareness of experience, moment by moment, “from below to the other”, that is, experiencing the experience in the eternal present while it manifests in our senses without cognitive filters which we are accustomed to.
In essence, using a metaphor, we can imagine experience as a multicolored light beam that enters us from our belly instead of our head. The belly will thus be the access door to the experience that will go back to the head that will make it clear, pure, full, without judgments and limitations. What we are used to is the opposite: experience comes as a bundle of light from our head, filtered from our cognitive structures. Hence, from the limits of our previous experiences, from the limits of the culture we are part of social rules, family, fears … and is then re-compiled according to mechanisms that PNL (Neuro Linguistic Programming) identifies as the deletion, generalization and distortion. There we form our “map” of reality, a map that will determine all of our future experiences, the ones we choose to do, the ones we choose not to do, the ones that will happen to us. In other words, it is not so important what happens to us every minute of the minute, what is important what we do after a second , that is, how we “interpret” and what we do in response to that experience.
The purpose of mindfulness is the freedom that comes to mind with awareness and, therefore, well-being. It is no coincidence that this practice is used in psychotherapy and medicine.
We think of our emotional states. We have faced another “emotional seizure”, that is, the intense emotional state in which we “lose control” of act and ourselves (we speak, react) as if we had the autopilot. This happens to us, for example, in a traffic junk, or in a queue at the mail, or in an argument with the tones ignited with a colleague. Think instead of how it might go if instead of the situation we perceive as unjust, dangerous, we are fully present to ourselves, fully aware of what is happening emotionally in us and around us. So we could choose not to react, but we could freely choose the behavior to keep, without feeling compelled, bound, by social rules, family and personal habits. In the face of a person overtaking me in the mail, I might feel the sense of injustice that is mounting in anger and me and … observe this emotion, take notice of it and then, instead of being angry, choose another attitude to keep back the fur best in its place.
Advantages? I was close to myself, I listened, I decided among the various options the best attitude to keep in that moment, I acted consistently to what I felt, to my values, I did not raise the pressure, I am satisfied with how I managed the situation. How many times, however, after an “exaggerated” reaction, did we feel guilty or in any case wrong for the excessiveness of the words or tones used? How many times, in a fight with our partner, we said the wrong word, we exaggerated and then we apologized, feeling the usual aroids?
It is important not to be confused: to observe our thoughts and emotions, to accept them for what they are, does not mean resigning to them, or rather to be able to confront them and choose to modify them in line with our values and priorities of that moment. We are constantly evolving. Therefore, if we do not get used to the point of the situation with ourselves, to follow the flow of change, the risk is to continue to apply old, no longer existing schemes, or our values and schemes, but our parents or beliefs social.
Mindfulness is a practice, so it is learned and cultivated with meditation exercises and daily practice. For more information visit this site.